Women Celebrities Who Victim-Blame Women Sexual Assault Survivors
(this post has been edited since it was originally published to add new names or links)
I so far have not seen any male celebrities engage in victim-blaming, but I’ve seen about 3 or 4 women celebrities do so.
It’s beyond me how a woman (famous or not) can fault a woman for having been raped or sexually harassed.
But they’ve done so. A few have later apologized.
So far, actress Pamela Anderson has not only not apologized for her victim blaming comments (comments which she insists are not victim blaming – but they ultimately are), but she refuses to apologize, and I disagree with her views on this.
Some women may be too young, naive, or trusting, and that is no excuse for a pervert such as a Harvey Weinstein to exploit that and sexually abuse them, but Anderson is basically saying they are to blame for being naive or too trusting or for lacking life experience.
A note to actress Kirstie Alley (link to her victim blaming comments farther below):
If Alley is wanting to know why women do not accuse their rapists or harassers immediately, right on the spot after being propositioned or groped, and so on:
Some women do not confront their workplace abusers at all, or not for until many years later, because many women are too afraid to do so immediately. They are often in shock or experiencing emotional trauma.
They may be afraid their abuser may rape them again right then and there, kill them, cause other physical injury, or get them fired from their job.
Furthermore, a lot of women, especially younger ones, do not have the necessary self confidence and level of assertiveness to confront an abuser – many girls and women are brought up by their parents, any religion they are raised in, and the culture, to be docile, non-confrontational, and passive (this is how I was raised).
Boys and men in our culture are often encouraged to be out-spoken, confrontational, and bold, while girls and women are often punished, ostracized, or discouraged from having those qualities – qualities which are necessary ones to confront abusers face- to- face.
From Time Magazine’s Person of the Year: The Silence Breakers
Nearly all of the people TIME interviewed about their [sexual harassment] experiences expressed a crushing fear of what would happen to them personally, to their families or to their jobs if they spoke up.
For some, the fear was borne of a threat of physical violence. Pascual felt trapped and terrified when her harasser began to stalk her at home, but felt she was powerless to stop him. If she told anyone, the abuser warned her, he would come after her or her children.
Those who are often most vulnerable in society—immigrants, people of color, people with disabilities, low-income workers and LGBTQ people—described many types of dread. If they raised their voices, would they be fired? Would their communities turn against them? Would they be killed?
Juana Melara, who has worked as a hotel housekeeper for decades, says she and her fellow housekeepers didn’t complain about guests who exposed themselves or masturbated in front of them for fear of losing the paycheck they needed to support their families.
…Many of the people who have come forward also mentioned a different fear, one less visceral but no less real, as a reason for not speaking out: if you do, your complaint becomes your identity.
Here are some of the women celebrities who have engaged in victim-blaming ever since the Harvey Weinstein story broke:
Mayim Bialik Apologizes (for Real This Time) for Her Victim-Blaming Op-Ed
Mayim Bialik Apologizes After Being Accused of Victim-Blaming Sexual Adult Survivors
Mayim Bialik Apologizes for Her Controversial Harvey Weinstein Op-Ed by Tolly Wright, October 18, 2017
Mayim Bialik has issued an apology on social media for the New York Times op-ed she wrote last week about being a “nontraditional looking” actress in Hollywood.
The Big Bang Theory star landed in hot water among some readers who were upset about the connections Bialik seemed to draw between her choice to dress modestly and how she has managed to escape three decades in the industry without an encounter like those detailed by Harvey Weinstein’s accusers.
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