Ten Things Mentally Strong People Won’t Do by T. Bradberry
Life has a way of testing your mental strength (also known as emotional intelligence) when you least expect it.
The true sign of mental strength doesn’t lie in what you do; it’s what you don’t and absolutely won’t do. The greater the challenge, the more difficult it is to respond with mental fortitude.
It’s hard to be mentally strong, especially when you feel stuck.
The ability to break the mold and take a bold new direction requires that extra grit, daring, and spunk that only the mentally strongest people have.
Thomas Edison provides an interesting example. When his factory burned to the ground in 1914, destroying one-of-a-kind prototypes and causing $23 million in damage, Edison’s response was simple:
“Thank goodness all our mistakes were burned up. Now we can start fresh again.”
Edison wouldn’t allow himself to wallow in his misfortune. Instead, his reaction is the epitome of mental strength—seeing opportunity and taking action when things look bleak.
You can improve your mental strength by studying the 10 things that mentally strong people won’t do under any circumstances:
…2. They don’t hang around negative people.
Negative people are bad news because they wallow in their problems and fail to focus on solutions. They want people to join their pity party so that they can feel better about themselves.
People often feel pressure to listen to negative people because they don’t want to be seen as callous or rude, but there’s a fine line between lending a sympathetic ear to someone and getting sucked into their negative emotional spiral. Emotionally intelligent people avoid getting drawn in by setting limits and distancing themselves from negative people when necessary.
Think of it this way: If a person were smoking, would you sit there all afternoon inhaling the second-hand smoke? You’d distance yourself, and you should do the same with negative people.
…10. They don’t get negative.
Keep your eyes on the news for any length of time, and you’ll see that it’s just one endless cycle of war, violent attacks, fragile economies, failing companies, and environmental disasters. It’s easy to think the world is headed downhill fast.
And who knows? Maybe it is.
But mentally strong people don’t worry about that because they don’t get caught up in things they can’t control. Instead of trying to start a revolution overnight, they focus their energy on directing the two things that are completely within their power—their attention and their effort.