Entertainers Cher and Goldie Hawn Admit to Struggles with Insecurity or Anxiety

Entertainers Cher and Goldie Hawn Admit to Struggles with Insecurity or Anxiety

I always find it interesting when people who eventually became successful in their profession, especially something as competitive as acting or singing, admit in interviews that they deal with low self esteem, anxiety, panic attacks, and insecurity – or that they did when first starting out.

Here are two articles pertaining to this, about Cher and Goldie Hawn:

Cher — Yes, THAT Cher — Still Has to Face Fears Every Time She Gets Onstage  – Dec. 2016

How Early Fame Caused Serious Panic Attacks for Goldie Hawn: ‘I Was Scared’ – May 2017

From

Cher — Yes, THAT Cher — Still Has to Face Fears Every Time She Gets Onstage  – Dec. 2016

Excerpt (in Q and A format with Cher):

Does it ever make you nervous that you’ve got to live up to some pretty high expectations when you perform?
I’m shaky before I go on. Once I go on, I know that I’m there to provide service, in a strange way. I’m there to make people happy. That’s my job.

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“I got a letter saying I wasn’t what they were looking for” – news reporter Lester Holt

“I got a letter saying I wasn’t what they were looking for” – news reporter Lester Holt 

“I got a letter saying I wasn’t what they were looking for” – news reporter Lester Holt

If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.

Although Lester Holt is now the anchor of “NBC Nightly News,” he revealed that his journalism career didn’t get off to a smooth start.

“In 1979, I was rejected for a job at NBC’s flagship radio station, WNBC,” he said in this week’s edition of Us Weekly’s 25 Questions. “I got a letter saying I wasn’t what they were looking for. I still smile every time I look at it.”…

[He went on to become a successful anchor with NBC network]


See Also:

Why the Best Success Stories Often Begin With Failure by Amy Crawford

Recovering from Failure – articles by various authors

Ten Famous Artists Who Had to Deal with Rejection During Their Lifetime by Lori McNee

You’re Not Failing Enough, by Diane Paddison

After 27 Rejections, Dr. Seuss Almost Burned His First Unpublished Book – But He Hung In There and Went on to Become a Best-Selling Author

Entertainers Cher and Goldie Hawn Admit to Struggles with Insecurity or Anxiety

Become More Resilient by Learning to Take Joy Seriously by Brad Stulberg

Become More Resilient by Learning to Take Joy Seriously by Brad Stulberg

Become More Resilient by Learning to Take Joy Seriously

Excerpts:

Grant — who, among other things, studies how people find motivation and meaning in life — showed up at Goldberg’s funeral, assured Sandberg that even though she is strong, he’d be by her side.

He offered her evidence-based tips on how to become more resilient (for both her own good and for that of her children), then helped her apply them.

The two teamed up to write a book, Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy, which details Sandberg’s experience and the topic of resilience more broadly. Though it was inspired by a deeply personal tragedy, the book is filled with insight that is useful for anyone overcoming loss or failure.

I recently spoke with Grant to discuss the book and some of the key concepts in it.

You write that there are “three Ps” that often diminish resilience: personalization, pervasiveness, and permanence. Can you briefly describe each?

These are common traps that people fall into after a negative event. It’s so easy to get stuck in rumination: It’s all my fault (personalization); this is going to ruin every aspect of my life (pervasiveness); I’m going to feel like this forever (permanence). There is a wide body of evidence that if you can minimize this kind of thinking, you’ll be more resilient.

Is one most challenging to overcome?

Permanence seems to be the hardest, by far. When we are feeling horrible, we tend to project that out indefinitely, and it’s sticky. It’s hard to convince yourself that the awful feelings won’t last forever.

It seems that a large part of avoiding the three Ps — and being resilient more broadly — is related to the stories that we tell ourselves about ourselves and our lives. Yet it’s human nature to focus on negatives over positives. How can people encourage themselves to tell positive, but not delusional, stories?

It’s a tightrope walk to embrace the feelings as they come and still find a way to craft a hopeful narrative. We have to give ourselves permission to feel sadness, but at the same, realize some meaning or happiness is out there, and include that in our story, too….

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How Successful People Stay Calm by Travis Bradberry

How Successful People Stay Calm by Travis Bradberry

How Successful People Stay Calm by Travis Bradberry

The ability to manage your emotions and remain calm under pressure has a direct link to your performance.

….As the human brain evolved and increased in complexity, we’ve developed the ability to worry and perseverate on events, which creates frequent experiences of prolonged stress.

Besides increasing your risk of heart disease, depression, and obesity, stress decreases your cognitive performance. Fortunately, though, unless a lion is chasing you, the bulk of your stress is subjective and under your control.

Top performers have well-honed coping strategies that they employ under stressful circumstances. This lowers their stress levels regardless of what’s happening in their environment, ensuring that the stress they experience is intermittent and not prolonged.

[Strategies for Coping with Stress]

They Appreciate What They Have

….They Avoid Asking “What If?”

“What if?” statements throw fuel on the fire of stress and worry.

Things can go in a million different directions, and the more time you spend worrying about the possibilities, the less time you’ll spend focusing on taking action that will calm you down and keep your stress under control.

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Research: People Tend to Grow Happier As They Age – Do Cranky People Die Sooner Than Pollyannas?

Research: People Tend to Grow Happier As They Age – Do Cranky People Die Sooner Than Pollyannas?

Do Cranky People Really Die Younger Than Pollyannas?

Excerpts

…. But if you look at the scientific data, it turns out that most older people are not actually crankier than younger people–it’s just that they don’t play by the same social rules.

When you’re younger, being nice and presenting yourself positively can gain people’s good favor down the line, says Derek Isaacowitz, a psychology professor at Northeastern University, but that ceases to be a major motivator as you age.

That’s why social scientists like to point out that outward expressions of grumpiness may just be a sign that someone is unconcerned with social niceties–as opposed to being hardened and unhappy.

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Dealing With Failure When Everyone’s Watching by Allison Barron

Dealing With Failure When Everyone’s Watching

When ‘Mass Effect Andromeda’ Bombed, I Had to Rethink Humility by Allison Barron

Excerpts:

Watching a beloved video game franchise crash and burn challenged my gut reaction to disappointment.
… Being able to take constructive criticism is necessary to grow and improve—and it requires a healthy portion of humility with a heaping side of grace.
We are quick to reject someone else’s opinion when it differs from ours—especially if it involves a project in which we are emotionally invested.

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How People Learn to Become Resilient by Maria Konnikova

If I am understanding this article correctly, one of its points is that it’s not what happens to you in life that can or will determine how you cope or if you succeed, but how you choose to view that thing or event, whatever it may be.

How People Learn to Become Resilient by Maria Konnikova, Feb 2016

Excerpts:

… Resilience presents a challenge for psychologists. Whether you can be said to have it or not largely depends not on any particular psychological test but on the way your life unfolds.

…Garmezy’s work [studying school children from abusive homes who yet went to to be successful] opened the door to the study of protective factors: the elements of an individual’s background or personality that could enable success despite the challenges they faced.

….Perhaps most importantly, the resilient children had what psychologists call an “internal locus of control”: they believed that they, and not their circumstances, affected their achievements.

The resilient children saw themselves as the orchestrators of their own fates.

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