For the New Year, Say No To Negativity by J. Tierney an R. F. Baumeister

For the New Year, Say No To Negativity by John Tierney an Roy F. Baumeister

Via The Wall Street Journal, December 27, 2020.

For the New Year, Say No To Negativity

Excerpts:

Bad experiences affect us much more powerfully than good ones, but there are ways to deal with this destructive bias and overcome it

…For 2020, here’s a resolution that could actually work: Go on a low-bad diet.

Our minds and lives are skewed by a fundamental imbalance that is just now becoming clear to scientists: the negativity effect.

Also known as the negativity bias, it’s the universal tendency for bad events and emotions to affect us more strongly than positive ones. We’re devastated by a word of criticism but unmoved by a shower of praise.

We see the hostile face in the crowd and miss all the friendly smiles.

We focus so much on bad news, especially in a digital world that magnifies its power, that we don’t realize how much better life is becoming for people around the world.

The negativity effect sounds depressing – and it often is – but it doesn’t have to be the end of the story. By recognizing it and overriding our innate responses, we can break destructive patterns, make smarter decisions, see the world more realistically and also exploit the benefits of this bias.

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‘I’m Broke and Mostly Friendless, and I’ve Wasted My Whole Life’ By Heather Havrilesky

 

‘I’m Broke and Mostly Friendless, and I’ve Wasted My Whole Life’ By H. Havrilesky

‘I’m Broke and Mostly Friendless, and I’ve Wasted My Whole Life’  By Heather Havrilesky

Excerpts:

Hi, Polly,

I feel like a ghost. I’m a 35-year-old woman, and I have nothing to show for it. My 20s and early 30s have been a twisting crisscross of moves all over the West Coast, a couple of brief stints abroad, multiple jobs in a mediocre role with no real upward track.

I was also the poster child for serial monogamy. My most hopeful and longest lasting relationship (three and a half years, whoopee) ended two years ago.

…I used to think I was the one who had it all figured out. Adventurous life in the city! Traveling the world! Making memories! Now I feel incredibly hollow. And foolish.

How can I make a future for myself that I can get excited about out of these wasted years?

[Signed],
Haunted

Dear Haunted,

…When you carry around a suspicion that there’s something sort of embarrassing or pathetic about you, you find ways to project that shame onto completely innocuous things.

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Trying to Be Happy Is Making You Miserable. Here’s Why By J. Ducharme

Trying to Be Happy Is Making You Miserable. Here’s Why. By J. Ducharme 

Trying to Be Happy Is Making You Miserable. Here’s Why . 

Excerpts:

The Declaration of Independence guaranteed Americans the right to pursue happiness, and we haven’t stopped looking for it since. But despite the college courses, research labs and countless self-help books dedicated to that search, only 33% of Americans actually said they were happy in a 2017 survey.

A new paper may help explain why: We’re trying too hard.

The research, published in the journal Emotion, found that overemphasizing happiness can make people more likely to obsess over failure and negative emotions when they inevitably do happen, bringing them more stress in the long run.

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Various Celebrities Openly Discuss Dealing With Mental Health Issues

Various Celebrities Openly Discuss Dealing With Mental Health Issues

Because there is still, unfortunately, some stigma in many nations about mental health problems, I think it’s a good thing that more celebrities are speaking publicly about having these issues themselves, or they talk about how they’ve been impacted because they have friends who committed suicide.

Some of the celebrities I mention below were inspired to come forward and disclose their struggles after the suicides of famous individuals Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain.

JANET JACKSON (singer and actress)

Janet Jackson said her 30s were plagued with mental health issues.

Janet Jackson reveals ‘intense’ battle with depression.

… Speaking of her many ups and downs, the “Scream” singer admitted she went through an ‘Intense’ battle with depression, and finally found peace when she became a mother.

In the post, Jackson, 52, wrote that her 30s were her hardest time, as her depression “was intense.”

“Janet Jackson opens up about her ‘intense struggle’ with depression” via FOX NEWS – June 2018

By Rachel McRady‍ | ET Online

Janet Jackson is speaking out.

The 52-year-old pop icon pens a letter to her fans in the new issue of Essence magazine, which was shared on Wednesday’s Good Morning America.

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Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade, and the Fallacy of Success and Happiness by Tanya Ba Su

Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade, and the Fallacy of Success and Happiness by Tanya Ba Su

Most people believe high-profile stars like Bourdain and Spade must be happy given their success, but the truth is that beneath the facade often lies a grim reality.

On Tuesday morning, fashion designer Kate Spade committed suicide. A few days later, on Friday afternoon in Strasbourg, France, chef Anthony Bourdain committed suicide.

What stands out both Spade’s and Bourdain’s death is the fact that they represented, for many, what seemed to be success and happiness. Spade had sold her eponymous handbag collection in 2007, had a husband and a teenage daughter, and had swept up every fashion award humanly possible, and then some.

Likewise, Bourdain was a giant in his field, working up the ranks in the kitchen to becoming a talented chef, a widely read author, and achieving the pinnacle of his success in televised food documentaries that flung him to perilous corners of the Earth, first through No Reservations and then through Parts Unknown.

Beneath that sheen of success and happiness, however, there was depression—deep, unsettling, tumultuous depression that rocked both Spade and Bourdain, ultimately leading them to commit suicide.

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Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade and Celebrity Suicides

Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade and Celebrity Suicides

Kate Spade was a famous fashion designer, and Anthony Bourdain was a famous chef.

Anthony Bourdain has died in an apparent suicide at 61  

Anthony Bourdain, world-traveling chef and TV star, dies at 61 in apparent suicide

Kate Spade’s Death Officially Declared Suicide by Hanging: Medical Examiner

Kate Spade, fashion designer, found dead in apparent suicide

Kate Spade’s brother slams speculation over sister’s mental health issues

In the wake of Kate Spade’s death, looking at suicide differently 

Celebrity suicides are a reminder we all shoulder a burden. We have to help each other carry it

One Lesson From Celebrity Suicides: Stop Deadpooling Troubled Stars (Guest Blog)

‘Shocking’ suicides of Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade reveal dangers of mental health stigma

…But unlike people with heart disease and cancer, those living with the mental health struggles that lead to suicide often don’t seek treatment or open up to friends and family about their deep despair.

Those who may try to hide their suffering can include famous, successful and outwardly happy, got-it-all-together celebrities like Spade and Bourdain.

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The 14 Simple Ways to Increase Happiness and They’re All Backed by Science

The 14 Simple Ways to Increase Happiness and They’re All Backed by Science

The 14 Simple Ways to Increase Happiness and They’re All Backed by Science

Excerpts:

Science reveals 14 simple ways people can feel more content.

This coincides with the International Day Of Happiness, which falls today.

From eating dark chocolate and drinking green tea to being grateful and meditating, lifestyle changes can make a bigger difference to people’s moods.

Studies even suggest something as simple as de-cluttering your desk can boost contentment by up to 40 per cent.

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Ten Troubling Habits Of Chronically Unhappy People by T. Bradberry

Ten Troubling Habits Of Chronically Unhappy People by T. Bradberry

10 Troubling Habits Of Chronically Unhappy People by T. Bradberry

Excerpts:

…Happiness has much less to do with life circumstances than you might think. A University of Illinois study found that people who earn the most (more than $10 million annually) are only a smidge happier than the average Joes and Janes who work for them.

Life circumstances have little to do with happiness because much happiness is under your control—the product of your habits and your outlook on life. Psychologists from the University of California who study happiness found that genetics and life circumstances only account for about 50% of a person’s happiness. The rest is up to you.

….Unhappy Habits

…Some habits lead to unhappiness more than others do. You should be especially wary of the ten habits that follow as they are the worst offenders. Practice emotional intelligence and watch yourself carefully to make certain that these habits are not your own.

1. Waiting for the future. Telling yourself, “I’ll be happy when …” is one of the easiest unhappy habits to fall into. How you end the statement doesn’t really matter (it might be a promotion, more pay, or a new relationship) because it puts too much emphasis on circumstances, and improved circumstances don’t lead to happiness. Don’t spend your time waiting for something that’s proven to have no effect on your mood. Instead focus on being happy right now, in the present moment, because there’s no guarantee of the future.

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‘Suicidal’ Mini Me actor Verne Troyer dies aged 49 after fight against depression became ‘too much’

(Post Updated Below, Feb 2019)

‘Suicidal’ Mini Me actor Verne Troyer dies aged 49 after fight against depression became ‘too much’

By Rory Tingle

PUBLISHED:  21 April 2018

Mike Myers has paid tribute to his Austin Powers co-star Verne Troyer after he died aged 49 following a long battle with depression, saying he hoped his friend was ‘in a better place’.

‘Verne was the consummate professional and a beacon of positivity for those of us who had the honor of working with him,’ Myers said in a statement. ‘It is a sad day, but I hope he is in a better place. He will be greatly missed.’

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Movie Actor Dwayne Johnson Reveals Battle With Depression, Mother’s Suicide Attempt

Movie Actor Dwayne Johnson Reveals Battle With Depression, Mother’s Suicide Attempt

I made a post addressing this earlier, if you’d like to see that.

Dwayne Johnson Reveals Battle With Depression, Mother’s Suicide Attempt

By Lisa Respers France, CNN

April 2018

Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson has revealed that times have been harder for him than fans know.

In an interview with “Express,” the movie star talked of battling depression.
“Struggle and pain is real,” he said. “I was devastated and depressed.”

Johnson said he went through a dark period years ago when injuries ended his dreams of playing professional football.

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