How ‘Gourmet Makes’ Host Claire Saffitz Teaches The Valuable Lessons of Failing by Monica Torres

How ‘Gourmet Makes’ Host Claire Saffitz Teaches The Valuable Lessons of Failing by Monica Torres

How ‘Gourmet Makes’ Host Claire Saffitz Teaches The Valuable Lessons of Failing

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….This is the drama of the popular Bon Appétit video series “Gourmet Makes.” Whenever a new episode pops up in my YouTube feed, I first look at the runtime. My excitement over each show is directly correlated to how long we get to watch Saffitz attempt a homemade version of the commercial snack foods of our youth with little to go on but a food wrapper and memories.

Recent challenges include Starburst (40 minutes), Twix (39 minutes) and those pesky Doritos (46 minutes).

“Gourmet Makes” stands out for showing how a recipe is actually tested in a professional kitchen through trial and error. Saffitz is a professional chef figuring out how to engineer a recipe in real time during the show, and we’re privy to her failures and frustrations along the way….

Saffitz’s bold attempts at recreating processed snacks also model what leadership and management professor Amy Edmondson called “intelligent failure” in the Harvard Business Review.

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Here’s How To Overcome Fear And Get Unstuck by D. Brustein

Here’s How To Overcome Fear And Get Unstuck by D. Brustein

Here’s How To Overcome Fear And Get Unstuck

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It can be difficult to find your path, get unstuck, build confidence, and overcome fear. And if it’s challenging for us as adults, how do we create positive habits for children and set them up for happiness and success?

In an effort to uncover tried-and-true strategies, I spoke with Brent Feinberg, author of Freeing Freddie, who breaks down for us the best ways to approach these topics, no matter your age!

Join us in the conversation:

….Brustein: You write about believing in oneself as the foundation for curiosity and wonder. What is preventing kids from developing this self-esteem, and how do they begin to build it?

Feinberg: The quote in my book is from e. e. Cummings. Fear is a big factor holding children and people of all ages back from exploring life in a way that will bring them greater fulfillment and happiness.

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The Power of Visualization by M. Horowitz

The Power of Visualization by M. Horowitz

The Power of Visualization by M. Horowitz

6 Tips to Visualize Your Dreams Coming True

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Sometimes it’s not enough to have a goal. Sometimes you have to picture yourself achieving it.

…. In his book Positive Imaging, Norman Vincent Peale writes that visualization “consists of vividly picturing, in your conscious mind, a desired goal or objective, and holding that image until it sinks into your unconscious mind, where it releases great, untapped energies.

… What I’ve discovered is that visualizing for positive changes is easier and often more powerful than we realize. Here is how it works.

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How To Elevate Yourself When Your Job Search and Life are Dragging You Down by J. Kelly

How To Elevate Yourself When Your Job Search and Life are Dragging You Down by J. Kelly

How To Elevate Yourself When Your Job Search and Life are Dragging You Down

Excerpts:

When you are interviewing, it is easy to become discouraged and feel defeated and dejected. It’s not just you; everyone experiences rejection in the process.

Here are some motivational thoughts to keep you positive and energized when your job search—and life for that matter—is looking bleak and hopeless.

1. Treat each day as a new beginning. Don’t get caught up with all the failures from the past. Forget about prior indiscretions, feuds, animosities or something a family member said to you 13 years ago that you forgot what it even was, but you still won’t talk with them. This is history. History is over. You are not that person any longer. You are the person living in the here and now.

2. There are no “what ifs” only “what’s next.” So, you made the wrong choice over which college to attend and chose the wrong major. You didn’t have a mentor or get the big break. We have to move on and forget about the “what ifs.”  It is a new start.

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How to Embrace Change Using Emotional Intelligence by K. Wiens

How to Embrace Change Using Emotional Intelligence by K. Wiens

How to Embrace Change Using Emotional Intelligence

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…Changes at work can be emotionally intense, sparking confusion, fear, anxiety, frustration, and helplessness. Experts have even said that the experience of going through change at work can mimic that of people who are suffering from grief over the loss of a loved one.

Because change can be so physically and emotionally draining, it often leads to burnout and puts into motion an insidious cycle that leads to even greater resistance to change.

No one wants to be an obstacle to change, instinctively resisting any new initiatives or efforts. It’s not good for you, your career, or your organization. Improving your adaptability, a critical emotional intelligence competency, is key to breaking this cycle.

Fortunately, this is a skill that can be learned. …

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Let This Be The Year You Finally Stop Letting Fear Get In Your Way by A. L. Malmquist

Let This Be The Year You Finally Stop Letting Fear Get In Your Way by A. L. Malmquist

Let This Be The Year You Finally Stop Letting Fear Get In Your Way by A. L. Malmquist

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With each new year comes the opportunity to shed your past and start anew. Although it’s just a technicality, it’s easier to conceptualize change with the marking of a new year.

The start of a new year can symbolize a new start for you, and for many, that’s just what we desire; the chance transform, the chance to conquer, the chance to be fearless. So, with the start of 2019, let this be the year that you finally stop letting fear get in your way.

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It’s Good to Imagine Being Embarrassed by E. Zimmerman

It’s Good to Imagine Being Embarrassed by E. Zimmerman

It’s Good to Imagine Being Embarrassed by E. Zimmerman

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There’s something I’d like to try, although it has a fairly high chance of not working out, which I imagine would cause me to feel stupid, awkward/foolish, rejected, and out of step with social cues. Maybe the timing will be better later, but until then, I don’t do it. And probably that’s smart, or maybe not, I don’t know.

A recent essay on Psychology Today makes me think I should just do this thing. The story is about our fear of embarrassment, and how it — more than our fear of failure — is generally what inhibits us.

But if we press down on our embarrassment by actually envisioning the things we’re afraid might happen — the truly worst-case scenarios — they’re usually not so bad.

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Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway – The Self Help Book by Susan Jeffers

Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway – The Self Help Book by Susan Jeffers

There was a self help book entitled “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway” by Susan Jeffers that came out years ago that a lot of people with anxiety have found helpful.

I did come across at least one page, from Psychology Today, that is somewhat critical of the book, and I will link to that page below.

Here are various articles or reviews of the book:

Self-Help Classics: Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway 

Same material from that page is also on this page:

Book review: Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers

In a nutshell: The presence of fear is an indicator that you are growing and accepting life’s challenges.

… Following are some key points in Jeffers’ philosophy.

Handling fear
There are different types of fear but one is the killer: the belief that we will not be able to handle something, such as our partner leaving us or not having a certain income.

The basic work to be done is to reach a point where you know you can handle anything, bad and good.

Jeffers’ point is that fear is not a psychological problem but an educational one. You must re-educate yourself to accept fear as a necessary part of growth, then move on.

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Trying to Be Happy Is Making You Miserable. Here’s Why By J. Ducharme

Trying to Be Happy Is Making You Miserable. Here’s Why. By J. Ducharme 

Trying to Be Happy Is Making You Miserable. Here’s Why . 

Excerpts:

The Declaration of Independence guaranteed Americans the right to pursue happiness, and we haven’t stopped looking for it since. But despite the college courses, research labs and countless self-help books dedicated to that search, only 33% of Americans actually said they were happy in a 2017 survey.

A new paper may help explain why: We’re trying too hard.

The research, published in the journal Emotion, found that overemphasizing happiness can make people more likely to obsess over failure and negative emotions when they inevitably do happen, bringing them more stress in the long run.

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Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade, and the Fallacy of Success and Happiness by Tanya Ba Su

Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade, and the Fallacy of Success and Happiness by Tanya Ba Su

Most people believe high-profile stars like Bourdain and Spade must be happy given their success, but the truth is that beneath the facade often lies a grim reality.

On Tuesday morning, fashion designer Kate Spade committed suicide. A few days later, on Friday afternoon in Strasbourg, France, chef Anthony Bourdain committed suicide.

What stands out both Spade’s and Bourdain’s death is the fact that they represented, for many, what seemed to be success and happiness. Spade had sold her eponymous handbag collection in 2007, had a husband and a teenage daughter, and had swept up every fashion award humanly possible, and then some.

Likewise, Bourdain was a giant in his field, working up the ranks in the kitchen to becoming a talented chef, a widely read author, and achieving the pinnacle of his success in televised food documentaries that flung him to perilous corners of the Earth, first through No Reservations and then through Parts Unknown.

Beneath that sheen of success and happiness, however, there was depression—deep, unsettling, tumultuous depression that rocked both Spade and Bourdain, ultimately leading them to commit suicide.

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