For the New Year, Say No To Negativity by J. Tierney an R. F. Baumeister

For the New Year, Say No To Negativity by John Tierney an Roy F. Baumeister

Via The Wall Street Journal, December 27, 2020.

For the New Year, Say No To Negativity

Excerpts:

Bad experiences affect us much more powerfully than good ones, but there are ways to deal with this destructive bias and overcome it

…For 2020, here’s a resolution that could actually work: Go on a low-bad diet.

Our minds and lives are skewed by a fundamental imbalance that is just now becoming clear to scientists: the negativity effect.

Also known as the negativity bias, it’s the universal tendency for bad events and emotions to affect us more strongly than positive ones. We’re devastated by a word of criticism but unmoved by a shower of praise.

We see the hostile face in the crowd and miss all the friendly smiles.

We focus so much on bad news, especially in a digital world that magnifies its power, that we don’t realize how much better life is becoming for people around the world.

The negativity effect sounds depressing – and it often is – but it doesn’t have to be the end of the story. By recognizing it and overriding our innate responses, we can break destructive patterns, make smarter decisions, see the world more realistically and also exploit the benefits of this bias.

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How To Elevate Yourself When Your Job Search and Life are Dragging You Down by J. Kelly

How To Elevate Yourself When Your Job Search and Life are Dragging You Down by J. Kelly

How To Elevate Yourself When Your Job Search and Life are Dragging You Down

Excerpts:

When you are interviewing, it is easy to become discouraged and feel defeated and dejected. It’s not just you; everyone experiences rejection in the process.

Here are some motivational thoughts to keep you positive and energized when your job search—and life for that matter—is looking bleak and hopeless.

1. Treat each day as a new beginning. Don’t get caught up with all the failures from the past. Forget about prior indiscretions, feuds, animosities or something a family member said to you 13 years ago that you forgot what it even was, but you still won’t talk with them. This is history. History is over. You are not that person any longer. You are the person living in the here and now.

2. There are no “what ifs” only “what’s next.” So, you made the wrong choice over which college to attend and chose the wrong major. You didn’t have a mentor or get the big break. We have to move on and forget about the “what ifs.”  It is a new start.

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Trying to Be Happy Is Making You Miserable. Here’s Why By J. Ducharme

Trying to Be Happy Is Making You Miserable. Here’s Why. By J. Ducharme 

Trying to Be Happy Is Making You Miserable. Here’s Why . 

Excerpts:

The Declaration of Independence guaranteed Americans the right to pursue happiness, and we haven’t stopped looking for it since. But despite the college courses, research labs and countless self-help books dedicated to that search, only 33% of Americans actually said they were happy in a 2017 survey.

A new paper may help explain why: We’re trying too hard.

The research, published in the journal Emotion, found that overemphasizing happiness can make people more likely to obsess over failure and negative emotions when they inevitably do happen, bringing them more stress in the long run.

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Survey: Pet Owners Happier, Wealthier, More Fit Than Non-Owners

Survey: Pet Owners Happier, Wealthier, More Fit Than Non-Owners

The perks of having a pet: Study finds people who have animals at home are happier, wealthier, and get more exercise

-Researchers surveyed 1,000 dog and cat owners over the age of 55 in new study
-They found that pet owners get nearly twice as much exercise as those without
-They also found pet owners tend to be happier and see themselves as successful

Survey: Pet Owners Happier, Wealthier, More Fit Than Non-Owners

… In a poll of 1,000 British dog and cat owners over 55 and 1,000 people in the same age group who don’t have any pets, researchers calculated that pet owners were twice as likely to consider themselves a success.

In fact, 9 in 10 owners agreed that their furry family members were good for their health and well-being.

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The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50 by Jonathan Rauch

The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50 by Jonathan Rauch

The happiness curve: Why life gets better after 50

The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50 – podcast

The happiness curve: Why life gets better after 50 – A book discussion

Yes, you do get wiser and happier after age 50

Excerpts:

Thanks to modern medicine, the lifespan of the average adult has increased by more than a decade and will probably expand even more in years to come. If that isn’t enough of a silver lining, journalist Jonathan Rauch offers even more good news about aging in his book “The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50.”

The optimistic, breezy title could easily be dismissed as wishful thinking. However, Rauch’s rosy projection is based less on new-age optimism than a review of a series of multi-country, big-data studies on happiness conducted over the past few decades.

The findings by scholars from a range of disciplines consistently show that life satisfaction is U-shaped, with contentment high in the 20s, plunging at mid-age and taking a turn for the better after 50.

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Various Celebrities Openly Discuss Dealing With Mental Health Issues

Various Celebrities Openly Discuss Dealing With Mental Health Issues

Because there is still, unfortunately, some stigma in many nations about mental health problems, I think it’s a good thing that more celebrities are speaking publicly about having these issues themselves, or they talk about how they’ve been impacted because they have friends who committed suicide.

Some of the celebrities I mention below were inspired to come forward and disclose their struggles after the suicides of famous individuals Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain.

JANET JACKSON (singer and actress)

Janet Jackson said her 30s were plagued with mental health issues.

Janet Jackson reveals ‘intense’ battle with depression.

… Speaking of her many ups and downs, the “Scream” singer admitted she went through an ‘Intense’ battle with depression, and finally found peace when she became a mother.

In the post, Jackson, 52, wrote that her 30s were her hardest time, as her depression “was intense.”

“Janet Jackson opens up about her ‘intense struggle’ with depression” via FOX NEWS – June 2018

By Rachel McRady‍ | ET Online

Janet Jackson is speaking out.

The 52-year-old pop icon pens a letter to her fans in the new issue of Essence magazine, which was shared on Wednesday’s Good Morning America.

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Tricks for Savoring Summer’s Fleeting Delights by Laura Vanderkam

Tricks for Savoring Summer’s Fleeting Delights by Laura Vanderkam

Tricks for Savoring Summer’s Fleeting Delights

Psychological research has yielded various techniques for helping us to get more from our best moments—and even to plan for them.

By Laura Vanderkam

…. I was first introduced to “savoring” as a practical concept through the work of the research psychologists Fred B. Bryant and the late Joseph Veroff. In their 2006 book, “Savoring: A New Model of Positive Experience,”  they noted that psychologists have long studied how some resilient people learn to cope with difficulty.

They thought it was an equally interesting adaptation to learn how to savor good things. As they showed, it’s possible  to take active steps to make life’s happy moments feel richer and last longer.

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Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade, and the Fallacy of Success and Happiness by Tanya Ba Su

Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade, and the Fallacy of Success and Happiness by Tanya Ba Su

Most people believe high-profile stars like Bourdain and Spade must be happy given their success, but the truth is that beneath the facade often lies a grim reality.

On Tuesday morning, fashion designer Kate Spade committed suicide. A few days later, on Friday afternoon in Strasbourg, France, chef Anthony Bourdain committed suicide.

What stands out both Spade’s and Bourdain’s death is the fact that they represented, for many, what seemed to be success and happiness. Spade had sold her eponymous handbag collection in 2007, had a husband and a teenage daughter, and had swept up every fashion award humanly possible, and then some.

Likewise, Bourdain was a giant in his field, working up the ranks in the kitchen to becoming a talented chef, a widely read author, and achieving the pinnacle of his success in televised food documentaries that flung him to perilous corners of the Earth, first through No Reservations and then through Parts Unknown.

Beneath that sheen of success and happiness, however, there was depression—deep, unsettling, tumultuous depression that rocked both Spade and Bourdain, ultimately leading them to commit suicide.

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Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade and Celebrity Suicides

Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade and Celebrity Suicides

Kate Spade was a famous fashion designer, and Anthony Bourdain was a famous chef.

Anthony Bourdain has died in an apparent suicide at 61  

Anthony Bourdain, world-traveling chef and TV star, dies at 61 in apparent suicide

Kate Spade’s Death Officially Declared Suicide by Hanging: Medical Examiner

Kate Spade, fashion designer, found dead in apparent suicide

Kate Spade’s brother slams speculation over sister’s mental health issues

In the wake of Kate Spade’s death, looking at suicide differently 

Celebrity suicides are a reminder we all shoulder a burden. We have to help each other carry it

One Lesson From Celebrity Suicides: Stop Deadpooling Troubled Stars (Guest Blog)

‘Shocking’ suicides of Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade reveal dangers of mental health stigma

…But unlike people with heart disease and cancer, those living with the mental health struggles that lead to suicide often don’t seek treatment or open up to friends and family about their deep despair.

Those who may try to hide their suffering can include famous, successful and outwardly happy, got-it-all-together celebrities like Spade and Bourdain.

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The 14 Simple Ways to Increase Happiness and They’re All Backed by Science

The 14 Simple Ways to Increase Happiness and They’re All Backed by Science

The 14 Simple Ways to Increase Happiness and They’re All Backed by Science

Excerpts:

Science reveals 14 simple ways people can feel more content.

This coincides with the International Day Of Happiness, which falls today.

From eating dark chocolate and drinking green tea to being grateful and meditating, lifestyle changes can make a bigger difference to people’s moods.

Studies even suggest something as simple as de-cluttering your desk can boost contentment by up to 40 per cent.

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