Tricks for Savoring Summer’s Fleeting Delights by Laura Vanderkam

Tricks for Savoring Summer’s Fleeting Delights by Laura Vanderkam

Tricks for Savoring Summer’s Fleeting Delights

Psychological research has yielded various techniques for helping us to get more from our best moments—and even to plan for them.

By Laura Vanderkam

…. I was first introduced to “savoring” as a practical concept through the work of the research psychologists Fred B. Bryant and the late Joseph Veroff. In their 2006 book, “Savoring: A New Model of Positive Experience,”  they noted that psychologists have long studied how some resilient people learn to cope with difficulty.

They thought it was an equally interesting adaptation to learn how to savor good things. As they showed, it’s possible  to take active steps to make life’s happy moments feel richer and last longer.

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Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade, and the Fallacy of Success and Happiness by Tanya Ba Su

Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade, and the Fallacy of Success and Happiness by Tanya Ba Su

Most people believe high-profile stars like Bourdain and Spade must be happy given their success, but the truth is that beneath the facade often lies a grim reality.

On Tuesday morning, fashion designer Kate Spade committed suicide. A few days later, on Friday afternoon in Strasbourg, France, chef Anthony Bourdain committed suicide.

What stands out both Spade’s and Bourdain’s death is the fact that they represented, for many, what seemed to be success and happiness. Spade had sold her eponymous handbag collection in 2007, had a husband and a teenage daughter, and had swept up every fashion award humanly possible, and then some.

Likewise, Bourdain was a giant in his field, working up the ranks in the kitchen to becoming a talented chef, a widely read author, and achieving the pinnacle of his success in televised food documentaries that flung him to perilous corners of the Earth, first through No Reservations and then through Parts Unknown.

Beneath that sheen of success and happiness, however, there was depression—deep, unsettling, tumultuous depression that rocked both Spade and Bourdain, ultimately leading them to commit suicide.

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Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade and Celebrity Suicides

Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade and Celebrity Suicides

Kate Spade was a famous fashion designer, and Anthony Bourdain was a famous chef.

Anthony Bourdain has died in an apparent suicide at 61  

Anthony Bourdain, world-traveling chef and TV star, dies at 61 in apparent suicide

Kate Spade’s Death Officially Declared Suicide by Hanging: Medical Examiner

Kate Spade, fashion designer, found dead in apparent suicide

Kate Spade’s brother slams speculation over sister’s mental health issues

In the wake of Kate Spade’s death, looking at suicide differently 

Celebrity suicides are a reminder we all shoulder a burden. We have to help each other carry it

One Lesson From Celebrity Suicides: Stop Deadpooling Troubled Stars (Guest Blog)

‘Shocking’ suicides of Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade reveal dangers of mental health stigma

…But unlike people with heart disease and cancer, those living with the mental health struggles that lead to suicide often don’t seek treatment or open up to friends and family about their deep despair.

Those who may try to hide their suffering can include famous, successful and outwardly happy, got-it-all-together celebrities like Spade and Bourdain.

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The 14 Simple Ways to Increase Happiness and They’re All Backed by Science

The 14 Simple Ways to Increase Happiness and They’re All Backed by Science

The 14 Simple Ways to Increase Happiness and They’re All Backed by Science

Excerpts:

Science reveals 14 simple ways people can feel more content.

This coincides with the International Day Of Happiness, which falls today.

From eating dark chocolate and drinking green tea to being grateful and meditating, lifestyle changes can make a bigger difference to people’s moods.

Studies even suggest something as simple as de-cluttering your desk can boost contentment by up to 40 per cent.

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Ten Troubling Habits Of Chronically Unhappy People by T. Bradberry

Ten Troubling Habits Of Chronically Unhappy People by T. Bradberry

10 Troubling Habits Of Chronically Unhappy People by T. Bradberry

Excerpts:

…Happiness has much less to do with life circumstances than you might think. A University of Illinois study found that people who earn the most (more than $10 million annually) are only a smidge happier than the average Joes and Janes who work for them.

Life circumstances have little to do with happiness because much happiness is under your control—the product of your habits and your outlook on life. Psychologists from the University of California who study happiness found that genetics and life circumstances only account for about 50% of a person’s happiness. The rest is up to you.

….Unhappy Habits

…Some habits lead to unhappiness more than others do. You should be especially wary of the ten habits that follow as they are the worst offenders. Practice emotional intelligence and watch yourself carefully to make certain that these habits are not your own.

1. Waiting for the future. Telling yourself, “I’ll be happy when …” is one of the easiest unhappy habits to fall into. How you end the statement doesn’t really matter (it might be a promotion, more pay, or a new relationship) because it puts too much emphasis on circumstances, and improved circumstances don’t lead to happiness. Don’t spend your time waiting for something that’s proven to have no effect on your mood. Instead focus on being happy right now, in the present moment, because there’s no guarantee of the future.

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Your Best Years Are Not Behind You by Patricia Rayborn

Your Best Years Are Not Behind You by Patricia Rayborn

This is written from a Christian perspective, but I don’t think one has to be a Christian to necessarily glean and profit from some of the concepts the author raises.

Your Best Years Are Not Behind You by Patricia Rayborn

I am not 25 anymore, or 45, or even 65. But God doesn’t care. It’s Monday and my phone is ringing. My email inbox is full. My workload is steady. The harvest is ripe, as the Good Book says, and God has work for me to do. That’s the biggest surprise to me about getting older: God doesn’t worry about age. He needs willing workers.

My biggest life questions aren’t about whether I will dye my hair, buff my thighs, or get a Botox shot.

Instead, I’m simply asking: Am I still willing to work for God and not stop?

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WWII Veteran to Graduate College Nearly 70 Years After His Last Class

WWII veteran to graduate college nearly 70 years after his last class: “I never thought I’d live to see this. It’s a miracle!”

WWII veteran to graduate college nearly 70 years after his last class

May 4, 2018

It’s been almost 70 years since Bob Barger last sat in a classroom, but the World War II veteran will finally receive his college diploma this weekend.

The 96-year-old former U.S. Navy pilot will graduate Saturday with an associate degree in technical studies from the University of Toledo in his hometown, the school said.

He is believed to be the oldest graduate in the university’s history.

“I never thought I’d live to see this,” Barger said in a recent interview with ABC station WTVG in Toledo, Ohio. “It’s a miracle!”

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