Psychology Shows It’s A Big Mistake to Base Our Self-Worth on Our Professional Achievements by E. E. Smith

Psychology Shows It’s A Big Mistake to Base Our Self-Worth on Our Professional Achievements

Psychology Shows It’s A Big Mistake to Base Our Self-Worth on Our Professional Achievements– originally published May 2017

Excerpts:

Contemporary society has some very wrong-headed ideas about what constitutes success. Popular thinking holds that a person who went to Harvard is smarter and better than someone who attended Ohio State; that a father who stays at home with his kids is contributing less to society than a man who works at a Fortune 500 company; that a woman with 200 Instagram followers must be less valuable than a woman with two million.

This notion of success isn’t just elitist and misguided; it actively hurts those who believe it.

For my book, The Power of Meaning, I spoke to many people who defined their identity and self-worth by their educational and career achievements. When they succeeded, their lives felt meaningful, and they were happy.

But when they failed or struggled, the only thing that gave their lives value was gone—and so they fell into despair, and became convinced they were worthless.

Writing my book taught me that being a successful person isn’t about career achievement or having the most toys.

It’s about being a good, wise, and generous human being. Cultivating these qualities, my research showed, brings people a deep and enduring sense of fulfillment, which in turn helps them to face setbacks with resilience and meet death with peace.

These are the criteria that we should be using to gauge our own success in life and the success of others, especially our children.

….In other words, you’re a successful adult when you outgrow the natural selfishness of your childhood and youth—when you realize that life is no longer about charting your own course, but about helping others, whether it’s by raising children, mentoring colleagues, or creating something new and useful for the world.

Generative people perceive themselves as part of a larger tapestry and seek to preserve it, however humbly, for future generations. This legacy gives their lives meaning.

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See Also:

How To Elevate Yourself When Your Job Search and Life are Dragging You Down by J. Kelly

‘I’m Broke and Mostly Friendless, and I’ve Wasted My Whole Life’ By H. Havrilesky

Why Self-Compassion Works Better Than Self-Esteem by Olga Khazan

Nay-Sayers and Failure on the Way to Success: Singer Elvis Presley

You’re Not Failing Enough, by Diane Paddison

Being Positive, Associating With Positive People Can Increase Your Chances of Success by K. Elkins

How To Overcome Self-Criticism and Lack of Motivation by Bryn Mooth

Why the Best Success Stories Often Begin With Failure by Amy Crawford

Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway – The Self Help Book by Susan Jeffers

Recovering from Failure – articles by various authors

Become More Resilient by Learning to Take Joy Seriously by Brad Stulberg

How People Learn to Become Resilient by Maria Konnikova

Top 10 Regrets Of The Dying by Dale Partridge

Ten Famous Artists Who Had to Deal with Rejection During Their Lifetime by Lori McNee  

How People Learn to Become Resilient by Maria Konnikova

The Secrets of Resilience by M. Jay

Why the Fear of Rejection Overrides One’s Ability to Ask for What They Want or Need

How to Stop Caring About What Other People Think – Don’t Let A Little Criticism Hold You Back, by Simran Takhar

After 27 Rejections, Dr. Seuss Almost Burned His First Unpublished Book – But He Hung In There and Went on to Become a Best-Selling Author

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