It’s Good to Imagine Being Embarrassed by E. Zimmerman

It’s Good to Imagine Being Embarrassed by E. Zimmerman

It’s Good to Imagine Being Embarrassed by E. Zimmerman


There’s something I’d like to try, although it has a fairly high chance of not working out, which I imagine would cause me to feel stupid, awkward/foolish, rejected, and out of step with social cues. Maybe the timing will be better later, but until then, I don’t do it. And probably that’s smart, or maybe not, I don’t know.

A recent essay on Psychology Today makes me think I should just do this thing. The story is about our fear of embarrassment, and how it — more than our fear of failure — is generally what inhibits us.

But if we press down on our embarrassment by actually envisioning the things we’re afraid might happen — the truly worst-case scenarios — they’re usually not so bad.

And even if they did happen, it would probably be useful and interesting. (As long as these things aren’t illegal or destructive.) The visual it gives me is of breaking through paper walls.

It’s all easier said than done, but I like this way of thinking. I also like the author Marty Nemko’s straightforward summary of some common things we avoid doing and why:

-For fear of seeming like a loser, being unwilling to ask one’s network for job leads.

-For fear of sounding awkward, not asking someone for a date.

-For fear of showing vulnerability, being too withholding.

Life is short, and there are worse things than looking foolish, feeling rejected, and being laughed at. …

See Also:

Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway – The Self Help Book by Susan Jeffers

Why the Fear of Rejection Overrides One’s Ability to Ask for What They Want or Need

Why the Best Success Stories Often Begin With Failure by Amy Crawford

Thirty Five Famous People Who Were Painfully Rejected Before Making It Big

To Be Successful, Make Your Own Luck By J. Kaplan & B. Marsh

Actor Dwayne (“The Rock”) Johnson’s Inspirational Story – He Doesn’t Want People to Give Up on Their Dreams

The Secrets of Resilience by M. Jay

Ten Famous Artists Who Had to Deal with Rejection During Their Lifetime by L McNee



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