Trying to Be Happy Is Making You Miserable. Here’s Why By J. Ducharme

Trying to Be Happy Is Making You Miserable. Here’s Why. By J. Ducharme 

Trying to Be Happy Is Making You Miserable. Here’s Why . 


The Declaration of Independence guaranteed Americans the right to pursue happiness, and we haven’t stopped looking for it since. But despite the college courses, research labs and countless self-help books dedicated to that search, only 33% of Americans actually said they were happy in a 2017 survey.

A new paper may help explain why: We’re trying too hard.

The research, published in the journal Emotion, found that overemphasizing happiness can make people more likely to obsess over failure and negative emotions when they inevitably do happen, bringing them more stress in the long run.

….“When people place a great deal of pressure on themselves to feel happy, or think that others around them do, they are more likely to see their negative emotions and experiences as signals of failure,” Bastian says. “This will only drive more unhappiness.”

Bastian says the study isn’t a condemnation of trying to be happy; rather, it underscores the importance of knowing and accepting that feeling unhappy sometimes is just as normal and healthy.

…In fact, recent research has suggested that experiencing negative emotions can ultimately boost happiness, and another new study finds that stressful or unpleasant situations may help people process bad news. Bastian also adds that failure can be invaluable for learning and growth.

“Failure is critical to innovation, learning and progress,” he says. “Every successful organization knows that failure is part of the road to success, so we need to know how to respond well to failure.”

See Also:

The 14 Simple Ways to Increase Happiness and They’re All Backed by Science

Survey: Pet Owners Happier, Wealthier, More Fit Than Non-Owners

Daredevil and Motorcyclist Evel Knievel’s Inspirational Words About Failure

The Museum of Failure – Teaching Lessons About Failure

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