Women Celebrities Who Victim-Blame Women Sexual Assault Survivors
(this post has been edited since it was originally published to add new names or links)
I so far have not seen any male celebrities engage in victim-blaming, but I’ve seen about 3 or 4 women celebrities do so.
It’s beyond me how a woman (famous or not) can fault a woman for having been raped or sexually harassed.
But they’ve done so. A few have later apologized.
So far, actress Pamela Anderson has not only not apologized for her victim blaming comments (comments which she insists are not victim blaming – but they ultimately are), but she refuses to apologize, and I disagree with her views on this.
Some women may be too young, naive, or trusting, and that is no excuse for a pervert such as a Harvey Weinstein to exploit that and sexually abuse them, but Anderson is basically saying they are to blame for being naive or too trusting or for lacking life experience.
A note to actress Kirstie Alley (link to her victim blaming comments farther below):
If Alley is wanting to know why women do not accuse their rapists or harassers immediately, right on the spot after being propositioned or groped, and so on:
Some women do not confront their workplace abusers at all, or not for until many years later, because many women are too afraid to do so immediately. They are often in shock or experiencing emotional trauma.
They may be afraid their abuser may rape them again right then and there, kill them, cause other physical injury, or get them fired from their job.
Furthermore, a lot of women, especially younger ones, do not have the necessary self confidence and level of assertiveness to confront an abuser – many girls and women are brought up by their parents, any religion they are raised in, and the culture, to be docile, non-confrontational, and passive (this is how I was raised).
Boys and men in our culture are often encouraged to be out-spoken, confrontational, and bold, while girls and women are often punished, ostracized, or discouraged from having those qualities – qualities which are necessary ones to confront abusers face- to- face.
From Time Magazine’s Person of the Year: The Silence Breakers
Nearly all of the people TIME interviewed about their [sexual harassment] experiences expressed a crushing fear of what would happen to them personally, to their families or to their jobs if they spoke up.
For some, the fear was borne of a threat of physical violence. Pascual felt trapped and terrified when her harasser began to stalk her at home, but felt she was powerless to stop him. If she told anyone, the abuser warned her, he would come after her or her children.
Those who are often most vulnerable in society—immigrants, people of color, people with disabilities, low-income workers and LGBTQ people—described many types of dread. If they raised their voices, would they be fired? Would their communities turn against them? Would they be killed?
Juana Melara, who has worked as a hotel housekeeper for decades, says she and her fellow housekeepers didn’t complain about guests who exposed themselves or masturbated in front of them for fear of losing the paycheck they needed to support their families.
…Many of the people who have come forward also mentioned a different fear, one less visceral but no less real, as a reason for not speaking out: if you do, your complaint becomes your identity.
Here are some of the women celebrities who have engaged in victim-blaming ever since the Harvey Weinstein story broke:
Lindsay Lohan (August 2018)
In a new interview, Lohan contributes to harmful rhetoric about sexual assault.
…Lohan is far from alone in this kind of thinking. In a nationwide survey conducted by Vox and Morning Consult in March, 27 percent of women said that they were “very” worried about men being falsely accused, with another 36 percent saying they were “somewhat” worried. In truth, only 2-6 percent of cases of sexual violence in Europe and in the US are found or suspected to be false.
In other words, concerns of making accusations “for the attention” aren’t supported by fact — but they are supported and perpetuated by statements like Lohan’s.
The actress previously defended Harvey Weinstein while attacking his estranged wife for not ‘being there for him’
Lindsay Lohan is facing a backlash for criticising the Me Too movement, saying it makes women “look weak”.
…. Her comments were met with disdain on social media and media companies like Vox, which noted “Concerns of reporting sexual abuse ‘for the attention’ aren’t supported by fact — but they are supported and perpetuated by statements like Lindsay Lohan’s.”
Others decided it was the final straw for Ms Lohan, who has seen her fair share of backlash over controversial statements she made supporting producer and alleged rapist Harvey Weinstein.
“I held out ’til now because of The Parent Trap, but: Lindsay Lohan, you are cancelled,” Jenny Hollander, deputy editor ofMarie Claire, wrote on Twitter.
By Lisa Respers France, CNN
(CNN)Lindsay Lohan has come under fire for comments she made about the #MeToo movement.
In a recent interview with The Times, talk turned to Lohan’s “old-school attitude to on-set politics” and a story about the actress stripping down for a sex scene in the Paul Schrader-directed film, “The Canyons.”
The writer noted that Schrader also stripped when Lohan demured at doing so. Despite the experience, “Lohan claims to have had no negative, MeToo-worthy experiences working in the movies.”
“I don’t really have anything to say,” Lohan told the publication. “I can’t speak on something I didn’t live, right?”
Lohan added she is “very supportive of women” but “can’t go along with the ‘attention-seekers’ or trial by social media,” according to The Times.
“If it happens at that moment, you discuss it at that moment,” Lohan said. “You make it a real thing by making it a police report. I’m going to really hate myself for saying this, but I think by women speaking against all these things, it makes them look weak when they are very strong women. You have these girls who come out, who don’t even know who they are, who do it for the attention. That is taking away from the fact that it happened.”
The remarks were met with backlash.
[Page has embedded by various people criticizing Lohan’s remarks]
By Jessica Sager
Lindsay Lohan has little sympathy for the victims of alleged sexual misconduct who’ve come forward in the #MeToo movement without filing police reports.
“Everyone goes through their own experiences in their own ways. If it happens at that moment, you discuss it at that moment,” Lohan, 32, told The Times. “You make it a real thing by making it a police report.”
She added, “I’m going to really hate myself for saying this, but I think by women speaking against all these things, it makes them look weak when they are very strong women. You have these girls who come out, who don’t even know who they are, who do it for the attention. That is taking away from the fact that it happened.”
She did note, however, “I can’t speak on something I don’t live, right? Look, I am very supportive of women.”
Lohan, who accused ex Egor Tarabasov of domestic violence during their relationship, added, “I had a fight with my ex on this very beach. What did I do? Nothing. I just took over the beach. The best revenge is success, right?”
It’s not the first time Lohan has shamed survivors and accusers of sexual harassment and assault.
In October 2017, the “I Know Who Killed Me” star released a video defending Harvey Weinstein and urging his then-wife Georgina Chapman to stand up for him in light of alaundry list of sexual assault and harassment allegations against him.
But after days of sustained backlash, Lindsay Lohan is now apologizing for her comments.
“I would like to unreservedly apologize for any hurt and distress caused by a quote in a recent interview with The Times,” Lohan told People in a statement, according to PageSix.
“The quote solely related to my hope that a handful of false testimonies out of a tsunami of heroic voices do not serve to dilute the importance of the #MeToo movement, and all of us who champion it. However, I have since learned how statements like mine are seen as hurtful, which was never my intent. I’m sorry for any pain I may have caused,” Lohan added.
The 32-year-old actress also said that she feels “very strongly” about the #MeToo movement and admires the women who have come forward about their experiences.
Mayim Bialik Apologizes for Her Controversial Harvey Weinstein Op-Ed by Tolly Wright, October 18, 2017
Mayim Bialik has issued an apology on social media for the New York Times op-ed she wrote last week about being a “nontraditional looking” actress in Hollywood.
The Big Bang Theory star landed in hot water among some readers who were upset about the connections Bialik seemed to draw between her choice to dress modestly and how she has managed to escape three decades in the industry without an encounter like those detailed by Harvey Weinstein’s accusers.
“Let me say clearly and explicitly that I am very sorry,” Bialik wrote on Twitter. “What you wear and how you behave does not provide any protection from assault, nor does the way you dress or act in any way make you responsible for being assaulted; you are never responsible for being assaulted.”
….In her Times essay, Bialik explained that though she had never been the victim of sexual harassment, “I still make choices every day as a 41-year-old actress that I think of as self-protecting and wise … I dress modestly. I don’t act flirtatiously with men as a policy.” She did, however, concede that many young feminists might find her choices “oppressive,” and said they should be able to dress however — and flirt with whomever — they want.
Donna Karan Apologizes for Weinstein Comments by Erin Nyren
UPDATED: Fashion designer Donna Karan weighed in on the unfolding Harvey Weinstein scandalSunday, wondering whether women are asking for sexual harassment based on how they dress. She later apologized for her comments and stated they were “taken out of context.”
During a red carpet interview, Karan called Weinstein and his wife Georgina Chapman “wonderful” people and said the issue wasn’t with Harvey himself.
“How do we display ourselves? How do we present ourselves as women? What are we asking?” she said. “Are we asking for it by presenting all the sensuality and sexuality?”
The designer continued, “You look at everything all over the world today, how women are dressing and what they’re asking by just presenting themselves the way they do. What are they asking for? Trouble.”
Karan is no longer the chief designer for her brand.
October 16, 2017
by Kenzie Bryant
One of Weinstein’s alleged victims, Rose McGowan, called Karan “scum in a fancy dress”; she was far from the only critic. Karan released a statement days later that called her quotes “taken out of context.” But she showed even more contrition while speaking with Bridget Foley, executive editor of fashion trade publication Women’s Wear Daily…
by Kate Feldman,
December 1, 2017
Pamela Anderson thinks Harvey Weinstein’s alleged victims should have been more careful.
The former “Baywatch” actress laid blame on the more than 100 women who have accused Weinstein of sexual harassment and assault during an appearance on “Megyn Kelly Today” Thursday.
“It was common knowledge that certain producers or certain people in Hollywood or people to avoid, privately,” she said on the show.
“You know what you’re getting into if you’re going into a hotel room alone.”
When Kelly argued that the women have said they felt safe because the meetings were set up by their agents, Anderson responded that they should have been smart enough not to go alone and “that’s not a good excuse.”
“When I came to Hollywood, of course I had a lot of offers to do private auditions and things that made absolutely no sense,” she said. “Just common sense: don’t go into a hotel room alone. If someone enters a door in a bathrobe, leave. These things that are common sense.”
She also listed details frequently relayed by Weinstein’s alleged victims, including private auditions and answering hotel rooms in a bathrobe.
…After being slammed on social media for her remarks, Anderson took toInstagram to stick up for herself. “Somebody had to say this,” she wrote on Friday, December 1. “I’m a deep thinker / I have a unique perspective. and consequence is part of my life. This is great. I am also an advocate for men. I just don’t agree with it all. Backlash is good. – I like this. My position is not ‘problematic’ because I don’t fall in line with the common herd or trend. … I think it’s very smart to be proactive. And I stand by what I say.”
November 2018 Edit: Anderson is at it again:
By Douglas Ernst
Former “Baywatch” star Pamela Anderson says modern feminism is a “bore” that culturally “goes too far.”
The animal rights activist joked with “60 Minutes Australia” this weekend that she’ll probably get “killed” by radical feminists for her willingness to criticize elements of the #MeToo movement.
“My mother taught me don’t go to a hotel with a stranger,” she told journalist Liam Bartlett in reference to Hollywood’s Harvey Weinstein scandal. “If someone opens the door in a bathrobe and it’s supposed to be a business meeting, maybe I should go with somebody else. I think some things are just common sense. Or, if you go in — get the job.”
Ms. Anderson then laughed and said that perhaps her Canadian roots allow her to speak her mind more freely than others.
“I think this feminism can go too far. I’m a feminist, but I think that this third wave of feminism is a bore. I think it paralyzes men, I think this #MeToo movement is a bit too much for me. I’m sorry, I’ll probably get killed for saying that. … I’m sorry, I’m not politically correct.”
by CNN Wire Service, November 30, 2017
Renowned actress Angela Lansbury is facing criticism after saying women “must sometimes take blame” for sexual harassment because of the way they dress.
In an interview Monday with British entertainment media company Radio Times, Lansbury said women “have gone out of their way to make themselves attractive. And unfortunately it has backfired on us … Although it’s awful to say we can’t make ourselves look as attractive as possible without being knocked down and raped.”
Lansbury was speaking about the wave of sexual harassment and sexual assault allegations made recently against such powerful men as Hollywood mogul Harvey Weinstein.
Her comments went viral, and not in a good way.
Some people said they thought the beloved “Murder, She Wrote” actress, 92, was trending because she was deceased but were mortified to hear what she said.
Others pointed out the irony of the actress playing a mystery writer and amateur detective who advocated for victims in “Murder, She Wrote,” the long-running CBS show.
People also noted the irony of her part in “Gaslight,” a 1944 film that helped popularized the term “gaslighting,” a form of psychological abuse in which someone is manipulated into questioning their sanity.
In the interview, Lansbury goes on to explain that women shouldn’t be prepared to be sexually assaulted because “there’s no excuse for that.”
Some have excused the 92-year-old’s comments by saying, “she’s from a different time.” Others say her age is no excuse.
November 30, 2017
She spoke following a backlash after a Radio Times interview this week.
The actress was criticised for reportedly saying “making themselves attractive” had “backfired” for women and they must “sometimes take blame”.
Dame Angela has now said: “There is no excuse whatsoever for men to harass women in an abusive sexual manner.”
‘Strong supporter of women’s rights’
The Murder, She Wrote and Beauty and the Beast star, 92, went on to say in her new statement: “I am devastated that anyone should deem me capable of thinking otherwise.
“Those who have known the quality of my work and the many public statements I have made over the course of my life, must know, that I am a strong supporter of women’s rights.
“Lastly, I would like to add that I am troubled by how quickly and brutishly some have taken my comments out of context and attempted to blame my generation, my age, or my mindset, without having read the entirety of what I said.”
I first saw this story on Twitter. Banfield was quoted as saying (to or about the victim):
“By your own clear description, this wasn’t a rape, nor was it sexual assault. Your sexual encounter was unpleasant at best”
I read of this story earlier, and here is what I said under that Tweet, and I included Banfield’s Twitter address:
Replying to @THR
From what I read, the encounter was not purely consensual the entire time. She said she conveyed to him she was not comfortable with some of his behaviors. The guy pushed her boundaries and took advantage of her, which is not OK.
The ‘Crime & Justice’ host took issue with the sexual misconduct claims made against the ‘Master of None’ star over the weekend.
HLN host Ashleigh Banfield on Monday called out the woman who accused Aziz Ansari of sexual misconduct in a story posted Sunday on Babe.net.
Banfield, speaking on her HLN program Crime & Justice, addressed “Grace” — the pseudonym used by the woman who claimed Ansari “violated” her — by saying, “I’m sorry you had a bad date … but let’s take a moment to reflect on what you claim was the ‘worst night of your life.'”
Banfield went on to say to Grace that when the date got “overly amorous” and she began “protesting [Ansari’s] moves,” that she “did not get up and leave” and “continued to engage in the sexual encounter.”
I do believe that Banfield was victim-blaming. The encounter between Ansari’ and his date that evening was clearly NOT purely consensual during the duration of their time together.
Nov 30, 2017
Kirstie Alley has few choice words to victims of abuse Wednesday on Twitter.
“What the hell is happening?” Alley, 66, began. “We now live in a country where people lose their jobs when accused of something without proof or trial or in some cases w anonymous accusers? Can’t confront your accuser? This is bulls–t. And IT HURTS THE REAL VICTIMS of abuse. AND innocent people.”
Alley’s remarks were met with mixed reviews from followers, with the tweet coming hours after Matt Lauer was abruptly fired from NBC following multiple allegations of sexual misconduct. The actress later clarified her comments were not in regards to the TV host.
Regarding the Kirstie Alley quotes: I’m not sure what she’s talking about. From what I’ve read, all the men fired so far had credible accusations filed against them, often by multiple women, some had photographic proof of the sexual harassment, and some men, such as Harvey Weinstein and Al Franken admitted (yes admitted) to their misconduct.
And why should it take 50 or more women coming forward to finally be believed, that a man raped them and has done so to other women (see news reports on actor Bill Cosby)?
by Lena Grossman
March 4, 2019
Roseanne Barr is voicing her feelings about the #MeToo movement and politics loud and clear.
The Roseanne star was the first guest on right-wing commentator Candace Owen‘s new podcast called The Candace Owens Show where the two women discussed current events and their respective feelings about the seismic shift in Hollywood revolving around sexual misconduct accusations.
A core part of Barr and Owen’s discussion focused on these claims and how #MeToo has changed many aspects of culture—for better or for worse. Neither Barr nor Owens seemed to be fans of the movement and instead made comments about women who were alleged victims of sexual assault or misconduct.
….The 66-year-old explained on the podcast that someone she was talking to recently believed that women showed up to these hotel rooms because “they thought they were getting a job 15 years ago.”
Barr, on the other hand, took a different approach.
“It’s because they’re hos,” she told Owens. “If you don’t run out of the room and go, ‘Excuse me, you don’t do that to me,’ and leave, but you stayed around because you’re like, ‘Well, I thought maybe he was going to give me a writing job,’ well, you aren’t nothing but a ho.”
Barr also called out these same women for “pretending that they didn’t go to trade sexual favors for money.”
She said later, “Women are pissed because they weren’t attracted to the guy that did it.”
Owens, too, alluded to #MeToo accusers of “[hopping] on this bandwagon” and using it as a means of not having the career they hoped for.
Barr then made comments about Dr. Christine Blasey Ford, who accused Supreme Court Justice Brett Kavanaugh of sexual misconduct when they were in high school. Barr argued Dr. Ford “should be in prison” because of the money that she raised on GoFundMe.
In a similar vein of mixing politics and #MeToo, Barr referred to presidential hopeful Kamala Harris as “Kama Sutra Harris” and made comments about the Senator’s previous relationship with former San Francisco Mayor Willie Brown.
Women Entertainers Who Continue to Work With Known Sexual Abusers
Dylan Farrow has attacked the actresses Cate Blanchett and Blake Lively after they voiced support for the Times Up movement.
Farrow called out the two for their decision to work with film director Woody Allen, the adoptive father she claims sexually abused her as a child.
After Lively shared an image stating the aims of Times Up, Farrow responded to the tweet with the words: ‘You worked with my abuser, Blake Lively. Am I a woman who matters too?’
Lively, who said she was ‘proud’ to back the new Times Up campaign, worked with Allen on 2016’s Cafe Society.
As for Blanchett, who won an Oscar for her role on Allen’s Blue Jasmine in 2014, Farrow queried a description of the Australian actress, 48, as a ‘vocal campaigner against sexual harassment’.
Asked Farrow: ‘Can one be a “vocal campaigner against sexual harassment” and a vocal supporter of Woody Allen? Seems a tad oxymoronic.’
Farrow, now 32, has repeatedly claimed that Allen abused her when she was seven years old.
In an op-ed published last month, Farrow wrote: ‘I have long maintained that when I was 7 years old, Woody Allen… sexually assaulted me. I told the truth to the authorities then, and I have been telling it, unaltered, for more than 20 years.’
For his part Allen, now 82, has denied the claims.