Ex-Wife of Director Joss Whedon: He’s A Serial Cheater and So Really Not All That Feminist
Well, well, well. Someone who you might think at first glance is one way, but turns out to be another….
by Kai Cole
“He used his relationship with me as a shield … so no one would question his relationships with other women or scrutinize his writing as anything other than feminist,” she writes
by C. Weaver
Joss Whedon is a feminist. The director is a paragon of exquisitely progressive feminist sensibilities. He’s a right-thinking social justice warrior who values women as human beings, who believes in pay equality and probably likes to have a good cry.
That’s according to his fawning fans in the media, and Whedon himself, of course. To hear them tell it, the only thing that stands between Whedon and total feminist perfection is biology (and a sense of humor). Surprise! His ex-wife tells of a very different Joss Whedon.
On August 20, Whedon’s estranged wife, Kai Cole, published an open letter on The Wrap, where she exposed her ex-husband as a liar: someone who used her as a “shield, both during and after our marriage, so no one would question his relationships with other women or scrutinize his writing as anything other than feminist.”
….Time even referred to him this past year as the best possible feminist director: “If you’re looking for a high-profile, ardently feminist man to direct a movie about a female superhero, you can’t do much better than Whedon.”
But dig a little deeper and you’ll find clues that maybe Whedon is more Cave Man than Pajama Boy. IndieWire published an fan letter in 2015 about how Whedon’s treatment of Black Widow, a character in the Avengers: Age of Ultron, was anything but feminist.
Whedon had given the female superhero the detail of having been sterilized by the Russian government. She then describes herself as a “monster” in the film, comparable to the Hulk. How did perpetually offended feminists miss Whedon portraying a woman who can’t bear children as defective.
According to Kai Cole, Whedon had been hiding, “multiple affairs and a number of inappropriate emotional ones that he had with his actresses, co-workers, fans, and friends, while he stayed married to me.” So instead of being the feminist mogul the media assumed he was, Whedon was literally no better than a 1950’s era director who used and abused the women he worked with.
The director also allegedly fired actress Charisma Carpenter for getting pregnant while playing a character in the Buffy spinoff Angel.
…In May of 2017, Joss Whedon shot a three-minute PSA for Planned Parenthood, and called the effort to shut down the pro-abortion organization “inhuman.”
Joss Whedon was never a feminist by Laura Browning
I love Buffy and will probably always love Buffy. I have a cross-stitch on my desk of two dinosaurs and the words “Curse your sudden but inevitable betrayal!”
I sing along (loudly, terribly) to Dr. Horrible’s Sing-Along Blog and get weepy every time I finish. And if I’ve belatedly realized that Whedon was never the feminist he claimed to be, and that I can’t watch his work the same way I always have—that’s okay, and even good.
If Whedon is using feminism to shield himself from terrible behavior, then it should poison his work.
Whedon is right about at least one thing in that 2013 Equality Now speech, even as its noxious irony is revealed: “You don’t have to hate someone to destroy them, you just have to not get it.”