Forget Positive Thinking: This Is How To Actually Change Negative Thoughts For Success by M. Wilding

Forget Positive Thinking: This Is How To Actually Change Negative Thoughts For Success by Melody Wilding

Excerpts:

…The problem with positive affirmations is that they operate at the surface level of conscious thinking and do nothing to contend with the subconscious mind where limiting beliefs really live.

…The truth is that it’s natural and healthy to experience a range of feelings, including less pleasant ones like disappointment, sadness or guilt. While there’s no question that ruminating in negative emotions can turn toxic, whitewashing your insecurities with positive thinking is merely a temporary fix.

…Unreasonably optimistic thinking can trigger a self-defeating spiral, particularly for those prone to anxiety and depression. Research shows that while repeating positive self-statements may benefit people with high self-regard, it can backfire for those lacking confidence.

…Start with articulating and acknowledging thoughts weighing you down–ones that don’t serve any useful purpose beyond keeping you stuck.

Give Interrogative Self-Talk A Try.

[Examples]

  • Am I willing to do what it takes?
  • When have I done this before?
  • What if [insert worse case scenario] happens?
  • How can I…?

Focus on Progress, Not Perfection.

…To effectively re-frame your thinking, consider who you are becoming, focusing on your progress–the current track or path you’re on.

You might re-work your self-talk to sound more like “I am a work in progress, and that’s OK.”


 See Also:

How Successful People Stay Calm by Travis Bradberry

Being Positive, Associating With Positive People Can Increase Your Chances of Success by K. Elkins

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